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Taking on Responsibility…Without Taking On Too Much

As adults, we have been trained over the course of our lifetimes that when something needs to be done, it is our job to step in and roll up our sleeves. To take charge. To get busy. The famous Nike slogan tells us to “Just Do It.”
But, how can you ensure that you aren’t taking on *too* much?
Review the statements below and think about how these might apply to you:
–You find yourself saying sorry for things you were not directly involved in
–You take the blame for circumstances that were beyond your scope of control
–You make excuses for those around you (friends, family, co-workers) who were in the wrong
–You have the urge to constantly “save” those around you, even if it hurts you in the process
–You feel overwhelmed on a daily basis, but can’t seem to do anything about it
–You find yourself awake at night, worrying about your ‘to do’ list and the problems in your life
–You feel like you have to provide entertainment and fun for those around you
–You struggle with guilt
Take some time to step back and think about the many responsibilities in your life, and make sure that things are in balance.
How far do your responsibilities stretch?
Your own life and actions?
Do they extend to your immediate or extended family system?
Are friends and co-workers included on your list?
If you can identify with some of the statements above, it’s important to remember that you can be a supportive force for those around you, without letting becoming consumed or overwhelmed. There is a way to take on the pain of those around you, without being crushed by it.
Lao Tzu once said “Do what you can, and then step back.”
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