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Posts Tagged ‘Couples Therapist NYC’

“Owning Your Stuff” In Therapy…It Can Be Empowering!

“Owning Your Stuff” In Therapy…It Can Be Empowering!

Most of us yearn for friendly, rewarding relationships with other people…but we often find ourselves at times embroiled in relationships which are exactly the opposite; full of hostility, resentment, bitterness and distrust. As a couples therapist, I work with my clients to help them communicate more effectively, […]

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Building Awareness…Identifying Your Aversive Strategies…

Building Awareness…Identifying Your Aversive Strategies…

Many individuals, couples and families who seek out therapy report that they have a difficult time dealing with conflict in an effective way, often using aversive control strategies in the ineffectual attempts to change the behavior of those around them. In this blog post, I identify and describe some of the […]

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Getting Unstuck – Moving Forward and Resolving Your Disagreements Together…

Getting Unstuck – Moving Forward and Resolving Your Disagreements Together…

Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last. – Simone Signoret Many of my clients come to couples counseling because they feel that they are constantly bickering […]

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Assessing Your Communication…

Assessing Your Communication…

“Ultimately the bond of companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.” Communication is one of the most important building blocks of a healthy relationship. In my work with couples, it’s the area people seem to struggle with the most. Difficulties in communication can be at the […]

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Thinking About the Pursuer/Distancer Dynamic…

Thinking About the Pursuer/Distancer Dynamic…

I work with many clients who are in the process of healing from the end of a relationship. As human beings, many of us have the automatic tendency to anxiously pursue someone who is wanting space, and it’s incredibly difficult to move away from this habitual pattern of behavior. When […]

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Couples Therapy Intervention: Altering Your Patterns

Couples Therapy Intervention: Altering Your Patterns

When working with many couples in my practice, I often ask them the following question(s) and record the answers on a sheet of paper for each partner: “When you feeling your worst, how do you act with each other? What does this look like?”  I work with couples […]

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Active Listening 101…

Active Listening 101…

An important skill that I review with almost all of my couples therapy clients is “active listening”. This is a helpful communication tool that when used properly can greatly enhance relationships (not just romantic relationships, this can help with friends, family and of course in the workplace). […]

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The Importance of Friendship in Healthy Marriages

The Importance of Friendship in Healthy Marriages

I am a big fan of John Gottman and Nan Silver’s work, and their findings/principles for making marriage work make a great deal of sense to me. As the authors of “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, Gottman and Silver focus on the simple truths behind […]

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Trouble With Apologies?

Scan the list below, courtesy of Ron Potter-Efron in the book “Stop The Anger Now” (New Harbinger), and see if you can identify some of the reasons you have trouble admitting your mistakes and apologizing. –I have trouble apologizing (or accepting an apology) because: –I hate to […]

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How To Be Assertive (Without Alienating Others)

How To Be Assertive (Without Alienating Others)

A very important life skill is the ability to ask for what you want or need. What I often see when working with my couples clients is either not speaking up or speaking too forcefully. Not stating our needs leaves us with a partner (friend, family member, or colleague) […]

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