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Trusting Our Decisions…

Trusting Our Decisions…

Over the course of our lifetime we are faced with making many decisions; some are big and some are small, some are life changing and some are insignificant.  Some of us are very good at making decisions, and when I say “very good, ” I mean that […]

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The “It’s Not You, It’s Us” Approach to Relationship Problems

The “It’s Not You, It’s Us” Approach to Relationship Problems

(This blog post was written by Elisabeth Mandel, LMFT. Elisabeth is an Associate Therapist at our practice and specializes in working with couples.) Partners often come to therapy to play the blame game. One partner points the finger at the other, turns to the therapist and says, […]

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Making Positive Changes in 2013 (that will actually last!)….

Making Positive Changes in 2013 (that will actually last!)….

A Positive Affirmation for the New Year In 2013, I choose… To live by choice, not by chance To be motivated, not manipulated To be useful, not used To make changes, not excuses To excel, not compete I choose self-esteem, not self-pity I choose to listen to […]

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My Personal Mission Statement

My Personal Mission Statement

My post today is focused on helping you to crate your very own personal mission statement. Many of my clients tell me that they get so busy in their everyday lives that it’s easy for them to lose sight of what really matters to them and what’s truly […]

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Recovering From Relationship Loss…

Recovering From Relationship Loss…

The loss of any important relationship has a powerful impact on our lives. Many of my clients report feeling a mixture of emotions: sadness, grief, anger, bitterness and sometimes relief (every situation is different).  There are no “correct” feelings to have, so it is very important to […]

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Thinking About the Pursuer/Distancer Dynamic…

Thinking About the Pursuer/Distancer Dynamic…

I work with many clients who are in the process of healing from the end of a relationship. As human beings, many of us have the automatic tendency to anxiously pursue someone who is wanting space, and it’s incredibly difficult to move away from this habitual pattern of behavior. When […]

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Thinking About Your Triumphs and Strivings…

Thinking About Your Triumphs and Strivings…

Take a moment to work through the questions below: What has happened in your personal life that you are particularly proud of? Think about your psychological triumphs, times when things were even better than you expected, periods when you came through trials and tribulations in even better […]

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The Importance of Friendship in Healthy Marriages

The Importance of Friendship in Healthy Marriages

I am a big fan of John Gottman and Nan Silver’s work, and their findings/principles for making marriage work make a great deal of sense to me. As the authors of “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, Gottman and Silver focus on the simple truths behind […]

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Try These Coping Statements for Anxiety…

Try These Coping Statements for Anxiety…

Coping statements are a tool that I use with many of my clients who feel anxious or overwhelmed. These positive statements can help you cultivate attitudes of accepting and allowing the needed time to pass during a panic attack. Many of my clients actually find it helpful […]

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Forgiveness…How It Can Be Good For You

Forgiveness…How It Can Be Good For You

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” (-Mahatma Ghandi) The word “forgiveness” means different things to different people. Forgiving ourselves or others is often hard to do because emotions such as fear, anger, and resentment get in the way. Once we do […]

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