Web developed by Bolinger web design

Archive for March, 2012

The Power of Mindfulness…and Cognitive Therapy

The Power of Mindfulness…and Cognitive Therapy

Mindfulness therapy is a meditation-based treatment with foundations in Buddhism; it has become popular in many private practice and mental health settings around the world. It’s something that I infuse into almost all of my work with clients. It’s something that I believe in and practice in […]

Read more

“Owning Your Stuff” In Therapy…It Can Be Empowering!

“Owning Your Stuff” In Therapy…It Can Be Empowering!

Most of us yearn for friendly, rewarding relationships with other people…but we often find ourselves at times embroiled in relationships which are exactly the opposite; full of hostility, resentment, bitterness and distrust. As a couples therapist, I work with my clients to help them communicate more effectively, […]

Read more

Building Awareness…Identifying Your Aversive Strategies…

Building Awareness…Identifying Your Aversive Strategies…

Many individuals, couples and families who seek out therapy report that they have a difficult time dealing with conflict in an effective way, often using aversive control strategies in the ineffectual attempts to change the behavior of those around them. In this blog post, I identify and describe some of the […]

Read more

Getting Unstuck – Moving Forward and Resolving Your Disagreements Together…

Getting Unstuck – Moving Forward and Resolving Your Disagreements Together…

Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last. – Simone Signoret Many of my clients come to couples counseling because they feel that they are constantly bickering […]

Read more

Improving Your Listening Skills…

Improving Your Listening Skills…

Many of my clients explain that they often find themselves having a hard time effectively listening to their partners. As human beings it can be easy to block your partner out (I like to call this “spacing out”), to rehearse your response instead of listening to what […]

Read more

How To Communicate Effectively With Your Partner…Ditch the Blame Game!

How To Communicate Effectively With Your Partner…Ditch the Blame Game!

When working with my couples therapy clients, I try to remind them to communicate what they feel and want, as opposed to hiding their feelings or blaming each other. Using “I feel/I want” statements is an effective method to remind individuals to communicate what they are feeling […]

Read more

Nixing Your Negative Labels…

Nixing Your Negative Labels…

Many of my clients tell me that they are dissatisfied with things in their lives that they are unable to change; perhaps they are not artistic or creative enough, or they feel that their social skills are not up to par. Perhaps something happened in your personal […]

Read more

Anger Management Tips: Is My Anger Healthy?

Anger Management Tips: Is My Anger Healthy?

Anger is a  powerful emotion that can stem from feelings of frustration, hurt, annoyance, or disappointment. It is a normal human emotion that can range from slight irritation to strong rage. From time to time, everyone can lose their cool or get angry. Losing your temper can cause […]

Read more

Bringing Our Past Into The Present…More On Core Beliefs

Bringing Our Past Into The Present…More On Core Beliefs

Our core beliefs have a large impact on how we view ourselves, other people, the world around us and predict the future. I work with my clients to help them discover their core beliefs, which is a significant part of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (“CBT”). Our  core beliefs […]

Read more

Thinking About Your Core Beliefs…The CBT Way

Thinking About Your Core Beliefs…The CBT Way

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (“CBT”) teaches us that long-standing beliefs about people, yourself and the world around you are called “core beliefs.” Many of us consider these core beliefs to be 100% true and valid at all times, which can lead us to engage in “tunnel vision” of sorts…selectively ignoring evidence […]

Read more

AAMFT Member

Featured On

Verified By Psych Today

Proud Member



Web developed by Bolinger web design